Nothing istock-photo-15742269-blackboard-seriess predictable. You have realised you need change. You have decided to be committed to your goal and take responsibility for every decision you make; you have made sure that your goal and every step taking you closer to it is congruent with your personality, values and beliefs; you have planned every detail and stuck to your plan. And still, the result you get may be completely different from what you expected, whether better or worse than projected.

After a failure you might shrug and say, ‘that didn’t work’, and move on. And when you do better than ever, you might shake your own hand and say, ‘well done’. However, in both cases you must ask yourself the question: What have I learnt? What will I have to remember in similar situations in the future? What did I do well? What should I have done differently?

Whether you experience failure or success, you must think about the reasons. What could you have done to make your plan successful? What did you do that made you succeed? There are good chances that you will find yourself in a situation again where you can use all the learning that will help you move one step forward, or produce excellent results. Therefore, do not only acknowledge the result, but think over what took you there.

Following the tragedy of Zsolt Erőss, Hungarian mountaineer, I read and listened to a few of his interviews. In one radio programme he was talking about how mountaineers handle tragedies, how they deal with losing their fellows. However painful a tragedy may be, professional mountaineers always point out where a mistake was made, what should or shouldn’t have been done to avoid the accident. They analyse their own and each other’s mistakes – without blaming anyone -, so in consequent expeditions all of them will be able to make a better decision. At the moment there must be many mountaineers analysing Zsolt Erőss’s tragedy. At the same time we, everyday people can learn a lot from his life…

Whether you learn from someone else’s or your own mistake, it is essential that you use what you have learnt and do not take the same wrong steps again and again but produce better and better results. During coaching, you will discuss the successes and difficulties of each and every step, analyse reasons, so you can make further plans knowing what you know. And although nothing is perfectly predictable, if you plan with responsibility, commitment and in integrity with yourself and then draw the conclusions from whatever happens, you will stand better chances.

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